Saturday, November 12, 2011

Self-Talk Part One


            I struggle with self-discipline just like anyone else.  Today’s problematic topic is, exercise.  I have the desire to have a cut and ripped body, but the issue at hand is my sheer laziness.  I sit here trying to convince myself that I need to go and exercise, but the negative side of my thought process is trying to find justification in not working out.  Such negative justifications are, I’m too tired, I should work on my schoolwork, and I won’t have time to play my video game.  These are just a few of the negative thoughts combating my positive self-talk.  Allow me to address each. 
            I am too tired is a common excuse for everyone, but the fact of the matter is, your too lazy.  It is recommended that you get between 7 and 9 hours of sleep (this particular fact used to be 6 and 8, the reasons for the change, could be numerous).[1]  That gives you 17 hours in the day to accomplish additional tasks, and if you allocate your time appropriately for your other tasks, everything is more than likely to fit. 
            I should work on my schoolwork is common only among students.  This particular debate on, “I have to much schoolwork” can easily be nipped in the butt.  The CDC says that you need between 150 minutes to 300 minutes of moderate to intense aerobic activity per week as well as 2 days of muscle strengthening per week, these breaks down to about 30 minutes to an hour per day out of 6 days.[2]  Considering the quality of food everyone eats today, you might want to lean more towards the 300 minutes.  So, lets assume all you need is one hour out of your day for 6 days a week, that really isn’t that bad.  Now lets see where you might find that hour.

The following are statistics found on Dr. Norman Herr’s website, a professor at California State University:[3]

According to the A.C. Nielsen Co., the average American watches 4 hours of TV per day.  This translates into 9 years of wasted life in a 65-year life.  Furthermore:
-       Number of hours of TV watched annually by Americans: 250 billion
-       Value of that time assuming an average wage of $5/hour: 1.25 trillion

This has become an epidemic and I invite you to look at the further related statistic on this website as I have provided the link.  People lack making a schedule for there daily lives, which can cause not getting things done.  Make a schedule and stick to it, but that doesn’t mean you have to live a meaningless drone like life, just get things in order and you will be able to mix things up while getting everything done. 
            I won’t have time to play my video game is an absurd excuse and an intolerable one at that.  My train of though in this excuse is that I won’t have any down time or fun time before I have to go to bed.  Trust me, I understand everyone needs time to relax, but that time can be scheduled as well. 
            There is nothing wrong with a daily schedule, especially if you’re a busy person with a lot to do.  Analyze what is truly pertinent to your day and what can wait until you have completed all that you must do.  Reading the paper or reading a book in my mind is not more important than my goal of reaching a ripped body, hence forth, I choose the hour of physical fitness as my task to be completed and reading as my leisure activity.  If you find yourself tired and constantly overwhelmed, it isn’t because you’re too busy all the time.  It is because you have not created a structure for success and accomplishment. 
Everyone must schedule time in his or her days to relax, because without a wind-down time, you will become overwhelmed (this time typically needs to be before you go to sleep).  There is no shame in living by a schedule, it is a matter of self-discipline reinforced with self-talk. 
At the time this particular segment is being written is a difficult time.  I am in a deployed environment, which is stressful.  To further enhance my excuse making, I work 12-hour shifts 6 days a week, and at the end of those 12-hour shifts I have another hour of mandatory PT.   I have now consumed 13 hours out of my 17 hours just by going to work (I work 78-hours a week, you probably work no more than 40).  Now let us break this down further.  After my 13-hour day, I proceed to the gym for one hour of exercise that will help me towards my goal, 14-hours.  Afterwards, I attempt to kill to birds with one stone by talking to my wife and eating dinner at the same time, and I always talk to my wife for an hour, so, we now stand at 15-hours.  At this point I only have two hours remaining if I abide by the National Sleeping Foundations guidelines.  So, I have one hour of school work and sometimes that will be less, which is good, that can roll over to free time.  For my 17th hour I must study for the board so that I can get promoted.  Due to my current situation of being deployed, I have to find time to walk to the showers and do personal hygiene, yet another hour down.  Then finally, my one hour of down time before going to bed, yet I have gone over this 17th hour and have now been awake and busy for 19-hours.  Okay, so maybe I have gone over the allotted time before the NSF says you should go to bed, but I realize that in order for me to reach certain goals, certain things must be done and excuses won’t help me get there.  Now I am not going to lie about anything and tell you I am never tired, but I will say my days are probably more productive than yours.  Some days are harder than others, but that is what makes me human.  The difference is the mindset in which you reside.  If you are always down on yourself and never practice positive self-talk, than you are doomed to never reach any goal set forth!
The concept of self-talk may seem idiotic or amusing to those who don’t practice it.  The idea of talking to oneself has often been associated with people with imaginary friends or people who are a little more special than you or I.  The reality is, we all do it.  The problem lies in that you don’t do it consciously; rather, you do it sub-consciously.  Your subconscious is very powerful when reinforced with self-talk.  I am not telling you to walk around and talk to yourself aloud, but I am telling you to do it consciously inside your head, all the time. 


[1] National Sleep Foundation, “How Much Sleep Do We Really Need?”
[2] Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, “How much physical activity do adults need?”
[3] http://www.csun.edu/science/health/docs/tv&health.html